I had a reminder today that they do, but often don’t say anything.
I was at a quarterly meeting with other patient safety/risk management people in the Boston area today. A lot of them have not seen me since the summer and I am 42lbs lighter.
Only one person said something to me and she knew that I had the surgery.
Then after the meeting we were talking and I said that I missed the last meeting because I had surgery and the person asked if I was ok and I said something like, "oh it was just lapband" (like it’s minor or something, I don’t know why I shrug it off). Then she said how she had noticed my weight loss, but didn’t know if I would be comfortable with her saying anything.
So on the drive back to Salem, I was thinking about it. I do only hear feedback from people who know that I’ve had the surgery.
I am very open about my surgery. I didn’t think I would be and I was embarrassed about it when I first started the process, but now I’ll talk about it with anyone. I’m a very open person in general.
I do think it’s funny that people are afraid that it will embarrass you if they tell you they notice you have lost weight. I’ve never been upset to hear that I’m looking smaller, healthier, skinnier, etc. Maybe there are people out there that do get upset.
I do think that it’s better not to say something at all if you don’t know how the person will react.
So next time you get to a milestone or lose a significant amount and no one is saying anything, know that it’s not because they haven’t noticed, it might be they are afraid to offend.